It is not about where you are at, it is about....

It is not about where you are at because you take yourself with you wherever you go.

It is about who you are, where you are at.

For me, this is the very, very first shift: being grateful for where I am at.
I always thought that I needed to be somewhere else, doing something else.

And I really know now that it is not about where you are; it is about who you are, because you take yourself with you wherever you go.

I was constantly changing my surroundings because it didn’t feel right, but it never felt right no matter how often I changed the surrounding I was in. I don’t like this, this is not good enough, I need something else. This doesn’t work.

I can say, for the first time, that I feel I am in the right place where I am—exactly in the right place.
What changed is that I sit with my feelings and feel them. Sometimes they are just feelings that want to be felt, and then they clear.

Before, I always used to think, Why am I feeling like this? There must be something wrong with my surroundings. And there wasn’t!

We are taught to fix something if we feel low or bad. This is very often how we are treated as kids: You feel sad? Here, have a candy. Don’t be sad anymore!

We are taught to stop, change, or numb our feelings, and this can continue into adulthood—watching TV, smoking, drinking, stressing constantly, overeating, or over-exercising.

All we miss out on is sitting with our feelings. They are not unsafe. In my opinion, they are the gateway for our growth and evolution.

If I am able to sit with my emotions, I grow stronger, and every emotion passes.

This is how it started: sitting with my emotions. At the beginning, I thought, I will never survive this; I need to do something about it. But I sat with it, and I felt very weird. If I was angry, I felt angry, punched the cushion, screamed, and felt my head was going to explode.

I did not fix anything around me, scream at anyone, break something, or cancel something. I just sat with it.

I did the same with my sadness or shame. I cried until there was nothing more to cry about.

At the beginning, it took me days to feel through emotions. Now it is becoming much faster. I can sit with it and think, It is going to pass quickly—that never works. If I sit with an emotion and focus on it—on the feeling in my body, not on the fact of what made me angry—I just feel the emotion in my body as much as I can.

If I tell myself, We are going to do this however long it takes, it passes so much quicker.

I think learning to feel emotions and not act on them is something that is crucial for us human beings to learn. Otherwise, the whole action-reaction cycle continues endlessly.

I am at the very beginning of this.

But I feel that this is a big piece of who I am: feeling emotions. In Human Design, I have an emotional authority, and so many people on this planet have it too.

To learn about emotions is a big piece in our evolution.